I am 28 years old and have known him for almost two years. He is about 10 years older than me and has had a small career.
For the first few years after graduation, I changed jobs frequently due to depression, and it wasn't until last year that I started counseling and slowly healing myself.
Also last year, he and I had a conflict because of some misunderstanding, and we haven't reconciled till now. We were quite ambiguous before, but after the conflict, we had less contact.
Although he's quite a bit older than me, he hasn't actually been in many relationships and is rather passive in character.
I want to take the initiative, but I have no relationship experience myself, and I often feel that the two of them are not on the same channel, and both of them want to make the other happy, but in the end, it makes both of them very embarrassed.
From last year's falling out to now, I feel like we've both expended a lot of energy, and not only him, but even myself have lost the enthusiasm I had in the beginning.
A year has passed and I'm debating whether or not to take the initiative to break the silence and tell him that I still like him and want to be with him.
Realistically, there is a huge gap between us. He has a house, a car and a successful career, while I have almost nothing.
The only things I'm better at than him are probably education, expertise, and mental toughness.
I have a feeling that even with him, I'm going to be dealing with a lot of stress, especially since I'm not in a good financial situation or family of origin.
I still like him now, but he doesn't necessarily still like me. Should I keep the decency to leave or be brave and confess?
Now at this age, when all my friends are at the time to get married, relationships can't be too impulsive and risky. So I'm considering this very rationally: should I go ahead and confess if the other guy is financially superior to me and I'm not sure if he likes me?
Actually, this matter has nothing to do with financial conditions, if you really like him, you should let him know. Love is better when two people who like each other understand each other. If you like him enough, you should go ahead and confess. Family of origin shouldn't be a hindrance either, if the other person really likes you, he cares about you personally, not your family background. After all, it is you who lives with him every day, not your family.
The key thing now is that you are not sure if he likes you or not. By carefully recalling the details of your time together and observing his behavior, you can actually roughly determine his feelings. You can also try the following methods:
Ask him to do you a favor, something that won't bother him too much, but is a little difficult.
Talk to him about what's going on at your work or home, and if he has a good feeling about you, he'll listen patiently.
Ask him directly what he thinks of you, such as your personality and the way you handle yourself.