My boyfriend and I have known each other since elementary school, and he had a crush on me in middle school, but I rejected it at the time. Then we each went off to college, not realizing that we would get back together after college. He found back the old feeling of heart, and I also found myself more and more dependent on him and like him. At the beginning of the relationship, we just occasionally have a small friction, can be easily resolved. But after two or three months, quarrels became frequent, mainly because of personality differences and long-distance relationship, which made it difficult for us to tolerate each other's shortcomings and habits. After each argument, through communication and persistence, we always made up. Now we have been together for four months, but recently we have had several breakups, but out of love for each other, we still choose to stick it out. Recently he has brought up the need for more personal space, he feels that he gave me all his time before and neglected his family, friends and his hobbies. He actually had some free time already because it was long distance, but he wanted more. He's a more rational person, less likely to be jealous or overly concerned with details, just plain living life. He likes to play games, so personal space is mostly about wanting to spend more time on games. We just recently reconciled, but instead of feeling happy, I'm just tired and worried about the future. How are we supposed to go on?
It's actually quite normal and complicated for you to feel this way right now. After all, after many fights, it's common for exhaustion and future worries to emerge in a relationship. The fact that you've been able to come full circle from the past and reunite shows that the foundation of the relationship is deep. But as you spend more time together, factors such as personality and distance allow for more conflict, a stage that many couples experience. He wants more private space to do his favorite things, such as playing games, which is actually re-adjusting the balance of life, but may not have paid too much attention to your feelings, so you are a little lost. For the next get-together, you can try to establish some new rules, such as agreeing to a fixed amount of private time each week, so that he can play games or do their own thing, you can also take this opportunity to do some of your favorite activities, and the rest of the time is to focus on companionship, exchange of feelings. Communication should also pay more attention, do not have differences on the quarrel, first calmly share their thoughts and feelings, mutual understanding and tolerance. Although now you feel tired and worried about the future, but as long as both sides are willing to adjust and work hard, feelings can still slowly improve. Don't be too anxious, give each other a little time to adapt to the new way to see.