I signed up for a painting contest with a good friend.
I ended up with a silver medal, while my friend only won third place.
TA is actually very talented in drawing and I have always admired some of TA's skills and often learn from him.
At the same time, the TA will learn from my experience.
We are usually especially close and often meet for shopping and milk tea.
So it was a big surprise to me that TA suddenly fell out with me after the game.
Can't friends race together? Does that really just break up friendships?
(I'm a sensitive person and I subconsciously keep my distance once I feel my friends are distant.
But this friend is precious to me and it makes me sad that this happened.
(I'm wondering if we'll all have to avoid competitive relationships when we make friends from now on.)
Hello, sir.
Maybe at this stage of your life, you are afraid of being jealous of the race, afraid of your friends leaving, and even more so, afraid of losing your friends because of the race. Some people even deliberately show vulnerability to avoid conflict.
But I will say that as you get better and better, it's true that some people get jealous and don't want to hang out with you because being with you makes them feel like they're not good enough. That's all perfectly normal.However, as you get older, you realize that what really matters is self-growth and getting better and satisfying your upwardly mobile heart.
At the same time, a true friend will appreciate you, support you, and be happy for you. You will also be happy for TA's success. Such friends can make progress and grow together.So don't give up on improving yourself just because you're afraid of alienating your relationship. Making friends is not about being weaker than anyone else, it's about getting stronger and moving forward together.