I remember when I was young, my mom and dad were especially busy at work and rarely had time for me, so I grew up around my grandparents.
When I was in elementary school, I was able to meet with my parents once in a while to talk, and then they were busy with their work when my studies got heavier, so the chances of meeting them became fewer and fewer.
And every time we meet, we can't say a few words before we tend to quarrel, so I don't want to actively seek them out more and more, and they seldom come to contact me.
When I was in school, my sister did all the parent-teacher conferences for me, and after I started working, I didn't have much in common with them - they were worried about food and fuel, and I was so focused on pursuing independence that I didn't see them more than a couple of times a year.
Although I usually don't communicate much, I know in my heart that they have actually been thinking about me.
I'm 25 this year and I feel like I've matured quite a bit, and I especially want to get closer to my mom and dad, but what exactly should I do? I'm really looking for advice!
Hello, my friend!
It's like seeing another self after reading what you shared.What's most gratifying is that you didn't resent the lack of parental companionship in your childhood, and this open-mindedness really deserves some praise!
You mentioned "
Want to improve your relationship with mom and dad and get closer to each other
", it means you've taken an important first step. Parents' love is often hidden in the details; they may not be good at expressing it, but they always have you in their hearts.To get closer, try these grounding methods:
Usually more active contact, such as birthdays, festivals to send a blessing, make a phone call, or WeChat to share the interesting things in life, and occasionally prepare a small gift (within the limits of the good).If you feel awkward, try to give a hug, make a witty remark, or simply ask "how's your health" when you meet.
All these little things can slowly melt the walls.
Pay more attention to their habits, such as what fruits mom loves to eat and what shows dad likes, and it will be more natural to pitch in.Convey concern in an unintentional way, such as teaching them to use a new feature on their cell phone or chatting about what you've seen at work.
Parents' expectations of their children are actually quite simple - their greatest peace of mind is that you are safe and happy.As long as there is love in your heart, even the longest distance can slowly come closer.
I wish you all the best!