I was a junior high school student who didn't have any particularly close friends in my class and often felt lonely. So I slowly got closer to my classmates from elementary school, who were in the same middle school as me, just in different classes. But their lifestyles were very different from mine: they were more diffident, always stayed up late at night to read novels, basically relied on copying their homework, complained about everything, gave up when they encountered difficulties, and had very low expectations of themselves.
As I spend more and more time with them, I realize that I have changed. I used to never stay up late, but now I always play with my cell phone until late at night; I used to finish my homework seriously, but now I do it hastily. My patience was getting worse and worse, and my thoughts were getting closer and closer to theirs, and my grades started to drop. Without realizing it, I seem to have become their "kind", which makes me panic in my heart. Maybe it's because I don't have enough self-control, or I'm trying to please others, but I don't know what to do now.
Son, I actually don't think you have poor self-control, rather it shows that you are very self-aware, which is a good thing.
It's normal for ideas to have ups and downs during the teenage stage, but a young person's energy should always be up. Do you have any criteria for making friends? I'll tell you mine: friends who have their own strengths, who can learn from each other and get better together, or at least feel like they're getting better when they're together, not regressing.
I share with you the most inspiring paragraph of Liang Qichao's "The Sayings of Young China". Cheer up: Today's responsibility does not lie with others, but with our youngsters.