I'm 23 years old and just graduated from college, but I'm still a blank slate in terms of relationships and have never had a boyfriend.
I always think that guys nowadays are not very reliable, so if I want to get into a relationship, I will go straight to marriage and hope that it will work out once and for all.
But I'm quite an ordinary person myself, and I'm quite introverted, so I'm worried that I'll have a hard time meeting the right person in the future.
Plus, with zero relationship experience, I'm afraid that I'm not a good judge of character, so I'll be in trouble if I find an unsuitable marriage partner.
Now my parents are urging me to get married, but I don't want to get married so early, and I'm under a lot of pressure to see all my friends and relatives get married.
🌹 I can feel your anxiety, mainly because you see everyone else getting married and you're lagging behind, and also you're a little less confident.
Everyone's life has a different rhythm, some people are like Jiang Ziya who was a late bloomer and only came out at the age of 70; some people are like Kong Rong who became famous at a young age. We all come to this world with our own unique mission, don't underestimate yourself, believe in your potential.
🌞 In fact, everyone has an innate talent, and there are usually three signs of talent:
First, you learn certain things faster and with less effort than others;
Second, doing it makes you feel especially accomplished;
Thirdly, you take pleasure in the fact that you don't feel tired, but instead recharge your batteries.
👏 So take some time to discover where your talents lie.
Life has to be experienced with the heart. Some people can live each day colorfully, as if they have lived several lifetimes; while others are muddled, and their whole life repeats itself like one day.
Marriage is a personal matter, there is no need to compare with others. Parents urge marriage, in fact, is to remind you to consider this matter, but the premise is to meet the right person.
🤝 Put the focus back on yourself: focus on your studies, work, develop hobbies, don't keep comparing yourself to others, the more you compare yourself the more likely you are to have low self-esteem.
㊗️ Wishing you a happy day and living your life!