I'm a 14 year old boy and I have a classmate in my class who always bullies me. What happened was that we sat at the same table, and once in class he suddenly touched me and started talking about himself. I was concentrating on the lesson, so I said to him, "I'm in the middle of the lesson, can you stop talking?" He called me an idiot.
Later, he had more and more problems, I was particularly annoyed, he may have held a grudge, slowly ignored me, to the end, even handed out the test papers are skipped me, homework books directly thrown over the mess. I've been holding back and not saying anything, because I don't dare to refute.
Maybe he thinks I'm a bully and his behavior is getting worse.
He's figured out that I'm soft-tempered, but I don't owe him anything, and he has no right to treat me like this. But now I'm still afraid of him, and I don't understand what I'm afraid of myself. I want to ask for a statement, but do not dare to take action. It is clear that the fault is not mine, why am I like this? This situation is about to make me collapse, self-confidence is gone, can't be myself, what should I do in the end?
Hello, friend!
Everyone is equal, and you're right, you don't owe him anything, you've done nothing wrong, and there's absolutely no need to hold back. When he makes unreasonable demands, the first step is to bravely refuse; when he behaves badly, the second step is to clearly stop it. This is not to encourage you to use violence to solve the problem; fighting will only escalate the conflict. Communication is the key to resolving conflicts, but I understand that adolescents are prone to impulsiveness and are used to expressing themselves in actions. You can try to act more mature and stable so that you have the upper hand mentally!