Hello everyone, I am a senior high school student. I have delayed my studies for half a year before for some reasons, and as a result, my grades have slipped from excellent to rock bottom, and now I'm especially anxious, often denying everything about myself, but occasionally feeling like I can do anything.
It's hard to concentrate, and sometimes I wake up suddenly in the middle of the night, and the quality of my sleep is poor.
I had depression in my freshman and sophomore year of high school, and now I feel like I can't hold it together, and I don't have time to go to a psychiatrist as I see next year's college entrance exams approaching, so I'm looking for ways to self-regulate.
Hello, owner! I'm Whalefall Han, a heart exploration coach.
From your description, I understand that you are now in your senior year of high school, your grades were originally good but have plummeted, and you are suffering from an inner blow that has created self-doubt. Depression has been troubling you and you don't know how to get rid of it. For your situation, I give the following analysis and suggestions:
① About the pressure of the college entrance examination: The college entrance examination is both a challenge and an opportunity for our students. I've been through the college entrance exam before, and I used to get top grades, but I fell off because of emotional problems, and the situation was very similar to yours. So I would say it's normal to have stress, don't be afraid of the stress itself. Proper stress can stimulate potential, but if you always worry about stress, it can be bad instead. First of all, tell yourself: everyone has high school stress, it's not your problem alone. Try to look at stress simpler and learn to be friends with it!
② About low mood: the preparation environment is relatively boring, coupled with heavy school work, mood swings are very common. When the mood is unstable, don't let yourself get trapped in a negative cycle, take the initiative to jump out and look at it with a rational perspective. You can make an emotional management plan, such as going for a run, boxing or shouting out loud when you are in a bad mood, and cathartic emotions through exercise, which can both reduce stress and release pressure.
③ About learning: you used to have good grades, the decline is mainly due to psychological factors. So the key is to regulate the mentality, rather than learning ability problems. Don't doubt yourself because of a few failed exams, keep your confidence, your foundation is still there.
④ About self-treatment and regulation: If you don't have time to see a counselor, you can read more. We recommend Adler's Inferiority and Transcendence, Junichi Watanabe's Blunt Force, and Transition: Notes on Depression, both upper and lower volumes. These books can help you understand your emotions and cognition better and improve your self-regulation.
These are my analysis and suggestions, I hope they help you! Good luck! (heart scouting coach whale fall Han)