A while ago because of my error of judgment, bought a set of rotten buildings, originally prepared for the parents of the old age housing, and now simply can not live in, there is no way to do, I feel that the hard work of the money saved all wasted, the heart is particularly guilty.
I can't help but pick on my mom, my dad, and my husband in my regular life.
Not only do they attack themselves, but they also hurt their closest family members.
What adjustments can be made to improve this? Make yourself a little happier.
Hello! First a warm hug for you!
🎁 I'm Lightshed and I'm so happy to talk to you, I can sense from what you've shared that you're a good-hearted and reflective person, which is really great
Kudos to you!
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Let's start by sorting out the obsessions you mentioned together:
Sometimes we criticize others probably not on purpose, but more like a subconscious reaction.
Is it true that you often can't help but blame your loved ones around you, and then you're unhappy and don't know what to do about it? I guessed right, didn't I?
👉 Perhaps it's because we subconsciously rely on these close people for a good example that we are prone to launching attacks.
🎁 It's quite possible yah, the things in our loved ones that make us look bad are exactly the same things we have similar issues with ourselves.
From them, we catch a glimpse of ourselves and can't help picking on others and blaming them, which may actually be a projection of our own dissatisfaction. This kind of dissatisfaction is sometimes difficult to adjust on our own, and subconsciously, we hope that by pointing out other people's problems, we can make them change for the better first and show us the way.
🎁 This rather shows that deep down we are quite dependent on the people around us.
My sense is that you may still lean on these loved ones in particular, but sometimes clearly see their shortcomings and want them to improve so that we can lean on them more comfortably as well. But looking back at yourself, it seems like you don't know how to make yourself better.
So we get unhappy, and after criticizing others, we realize that we have the same problem and are powerless to solve it, and a good portion of that unhappiness comes from that feeling of helplessness.
🎁 The whole rotten thing may have hit your confidence hard, but it's also an opportunity for you to become more independent.
After all, you led this matter, although the result is not as expected, but you gained the most from it, because the whole decision-making process only you know best, what lessons can be learned? Hopefully, through this experience, you will become more mature and rational, and in the future, you will be able to drive your dependent family members to improve together.
❤️ I hope these shares inspire you a little bit, it's a blessing to have friends like you, I wish you health, happiness and joy every day!
I am Lightshed, the world and I love you!