I often wonder if my self-esteem is too low or I am insecure. Since I was a child, I have been like a flower in a greenhouse, weak and easily bullied, I have to please others when I am aggrieved outside, but I can't help losing my temper and crying when I get home. Parents always say they are free-range education, but in fact they themselves are also weak and easily bullied.
After I failed in the college entrance examination, I gave up on myself and wasted a lot of time. Last year, I graduated from university and had no luck finding a job, so I simply stayed at home and didn't go out.
But it was clear in my heart that my parents were not rich and could not shelter me for the rest of my life.
In fact, a soft character may be due to the lack of sufficient support and encouragement in the growing environment, and have not learned how to deal with troubles and conflicts. Escape from reality is usually due to the fact that when faced with real problems and pressures, they feel that they have no choice, so they hide in the virtual world or other ways to escape. If you are addicted to the Internet, you may be looking for fulfillment, making friends, and having fun online so that you can make up for what you lack in reality. A fondness for lying may be a way to protect oneself, avoid punishment, or get some favors. Low self-esteem and insecurity can exacerbate these problems. Low self-esteem means that you have no confidence in yourself and are easy to please, while insecurity can make you want to run away or lie more. To improve these, one has to slowly develop self-confidence and problem-solving skills, learn to face reality, control internet addiction, and develop habits of honesty. You can start by setting small goals and challenging yourself step by step, or you can seek professional help to adjust your mental state.