Hello everyone! Today we are going to talk about the topic of children's psychological shadow. When many parents teach their children, they have heard that they should not punish them casually, such as scolding or intimidating them, so as not to leave a psychological shadow on them.
But are psychological shadows really that easy to form? Under what circumstances does a child develop a psychological shadow? And, is a psychological shadow always bad? For example, isn't it a good thing to be taught a lesson for stealing something as a child and never dare to steal again? Thank you all for your attention!
Hello my friend, I am the answerer of the lofty emotions, it is a pleasure to communicate with you on the platform.
I completely understand your feelings of confusion about the current discussion of scolding children in education styles.
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⭕️ The substance of the issue is briefly summarized:
It is true that scolding children may lead to psychological shadows, but it depends on the degree. As long as the principle of moderation is mastered, it is not a big problem.
Come to think of it, who in our generation hasn't been beaten? But the key is that punishment should be followed by love and guidance. This is how children can grow up healthy.
△ In fact, some children have not been hit since they were young, but their parents use mind control methods, which is worse. Moderate punishment is sometimes more effective than excessive lecturing.
So, educating our children is not a solo effort, we need to work together.
How can ⭕️ be solved?
At its core, it's all about moderation.
First, the degree of punishment should be moderate. Don't hit too hard or too often, just let the child feel the punishment.
Second, the frequency of punishment should be moderate. Do not scold everything, but combine it with other educational methods.
Third, punishment should be followed by care. Punishment is for wrongdoing with the goal of education. Just as the law punishes adults, children should be patiently reasoned with and their emotions channeled after punishment. This way the child will not have a shadow.
Come on, buddy! And I'm always rooting for you.
I hope my answer helps you.