I'm 18 years old and I'm about to take my college entrance exams.
When I was ten years old, I started to board at my uncle's (my father's brother) house because my parents were transferred to another job. At first I only went home on weekends and vacations, but later I went back once or twice a month and stayed at my uncle's house for almost the whole year.
My uncle and aunt treated me like their own daughter, and my cousin took care of me like a brother, even designing the layout of my room to my liking.
But when I came home yesterday, my mom and dad told me that I'd have to move back into my own house after the high school exams were over, and they said they couldn't keep bothering my uncle's family.
I was devastated to hear the news and cried for a long time, and I'm still a mess inside.
There are so many good memories from these eight years at my uncle's house that I really don't want to leave. What should I do?
Hello, I'm Strawberry.
💫 Think back to when you were ten years old, a little girl, immature and living at your uncle's house because your parents worked.
☀️ When I was 5 or 6 years old, my mom was a teacher and my dad worked outside the home, and there were so many kids at home that my mom couldn't keep up with them, so I grew up staying with my grandparents at my uncle's house.
My uncle's house wasn't far from our own, but my mom didn't visit me often. As a young girl, I didn't see anything wrong with living apart from my parents because my grandparents loved me very much. Once when I had a fight with my sister, I even said that my grandma was my mom, haha.
🌸 Eight years together have made you bonded, your uncle, aunt and cousin gave you family-like love and you probably treated them more than your own parents. They respected you enough to let you design your own room, and you felt warmth from them.
💫 Yesterday when I came home, my mom and dad said that I had to go back to live in my own house after the high school exams, saying that it's not good to have been bothering my uncle for so many years. I was very sad when I heard that, and cried for a long time, and now my heart is still in turmoil. 8 years in the uncle's home left too much good, really do not want to leave the uncle's home, what should I do?
🌸 You are now 18 years old and your parents feel that you are capable of taking care of yourself, so they want you to come home to live after your high school exams. Years of bonding have left you unable to leave your familiar surroundings. Although it's your own home, all your memories of growing up are at your aunt and uncle's house. Your parents are worried about bothering your uncle and his family, but they have a deep bond with you, so you can ask them what they think. If it's close to the school, you can live on both sides of the family.
🌹 Coming home to live won't affect your relationship with your uncle's family, but rather enhance your bond with your biological parents.