I recently had a bit of a falling out with my leader at work, over some disagreements that made both sides quite uncomfortable.
Later, when I spoke at a departmental meeting, the leader would look at me normally at first, but once I noticed his gaze, he immediately averted it and didn't meet my eyes, and this happened several times over and over again.
When he spoke, I looked over, but he deliberately flung his eyes to the upper left, obviously avoiding me.
Same thing in his day to day work, he maintains eye contact when communicating with others, but as soon as he talks to me he avoids eye contact and only sneaks glances at me when I'm not looking at him.
What kind of mentality do you think this is? Does he hate me, feel guilty, or is he going to give up on me, or maybe even think about doing something bad to me?
Hello my friend, I'm Ra to talk about your situation:
Eye contact is supposed to be a basic social skill, and looking at the other person during a conversation both shows respect and draws you closer.
Like you said, there was a previous conflict, which planted a lump in the leader's mind. Everyone's personality is different, some people may turn to guilt, some people instead of the heart, based on the eyes alone is not really conclusive.
Chinese medicine are concerned about the full range of diagnosis it, if you are worried that he will be unfavorable to you, as well as to find an opportunity to communicate properly once. But remember not to reopen old scores, or else it is easy for him to think that you are making a big deal out of it, thinking that he is holding a grudge to wear shoes.
You can choose a relaxed atmosphere, talk about your own position, clarify easy to misunderstand the place, so that he better understand that you are supportive of his work. In addition, the next time he avoids the eyes, you casually look over, don't stare, he avoids you move away, and then try again later, a few more times, maybe he will slowly relax.